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Real interesting article here on a star football player losing out on a few things due to his negative social media posts. This is something I am on my students and my own kids all the time - some of them listen, some don't. All of us need to be aware of this in all that we do on social media.... we don't have to like it, or think it's fair... but it sure is real!!
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"Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result." –Oscar Wilde
I never really liked science in school. Certain subjects in science were interesting like an ecology class I took back in high school and biology wasn’t too bad as far as I can remember. As far as chemistry and physics…. Yuk!
To look at success as being a science, I can totally see that and I must say, this kind of science I’m perfectly fine with. Yes, there are the conditions that we have to create for ourselves and others that we have to deal with for sure. There are the experiments that we must work on, fail and learn from them. Science is a lot of investigating, researching, reading, experimenting, studying, learning and then doing – that is what success is all about. I love this idea as it really comes down to being where success is indeed a science.
Looking back throughout my life, I have definitely done a lot of these items except the action part. I’ve done a lot of failing in many areas in life, had success in others and along the way I am coming closer to having success in many areas in my life. I could have had those success come much sooner if I would have taken this approach and not only learned the lessons that needed to be learned but then to also put them into action throughout my life too.
Many of the conditions we have control over in our journey in life and towards success. There are of course some conditions we don’t have control over other than we do control how we react to them. Yes, those probably affect us in a few ways, heck maybe even in a lot of ways. We do however have the right and the responsibility to choose how we will react to them. This fact does take practice to do. It does mean we have to work on our mental toughness and the sooner we do that, the better we will be. As with many things there are lessons here for this skill to improve in us. It just doesn’t happen.
There is also the important factor that our success journey does also affect others too. The harder we work on these lesson in our lives, the better off those that are connected to us will be. Even people that don’t really know us can actually benefit by us being the example for doing this the right way. There are those that simply view us, causally know us that we can affect. There is also that group of people that get helped by someone that we helped. There is a lot riding on this science class that we are all enrolled in. This class never really ends and we do get graded on it by our results in life. This is one science class that I suggest you get into, stay in it, and always keep learning and applying those lessons that are learned.
"Find something you're passionate about and stay tremendously interested in it." – Julia Child
This has always been one of my many messages to my students throughout the years and for them to combine those things that they are passionate about into a career if they can. I have reminded myself and others about this thought, as it’s also good for us adults too. If it can work out to be our career too, that’s a bonus for sure.
There have been plenty of examples, heck everyday there are plenty of reminders about how short life really is. In fact today I found out about two example from a friend who has a family member battling a serious medical condition and another friend telling me about someone that we both know being in a horrible car accident. This is just another example on how we need to spend our time here on earth doing things that mean something to us and to others. To remember to do those things that has a positive impact on us and others. We need to follow our heart and has Scott Smith says, we need to do what makes our heart sing!
Now for adults who are working in a career that maybe they don’t hate but they would be the first to say it certainly doesn’t make their heart sing, they need to remember whatever you are passionate about doesn’t necessarily have to be connected to your career. It can be a hobby for sure, but anything that you are passionate about should be a little bit of a priority to spend some time with. Many times it can be done here and there and it doesn’t have to have a set schedule to do either. One of my few things that I have a lot of passion about is coaching basketball. Heck, just being around the game has been important to me since 1977 when I was 11 years old. Started playing the game and then my dad got me into coaching around 1982 helping him with his CYO girl’s team.
This conversation came up with my good friend Don, who I’m blessed to be coaching with now again as we are both assistants on our local high school’s girls varsity team. He told me just the other day on how much coaching means to him and how his heart is connected with it and how it helps him focus and have energy for other areas of his life. This can happen in many ways other than basketball and the key is it can happen with anyone who looks to make that connection with things they are passionate about.
So what is it for you? What are some things that make your heart sing? Have you been thinking about trying to do more of those things? Maybe you are trying to find a little bit of time to do some of those things? Or maybe it’s something that you want to make a bigger change with as it might affect or even change your current career?? I was just talking with my sister-in-law today and my wife and I have spoken about this too – how difficult it is to get out of our comfort zones. I need to do that even more now. Is this idea or thing that you have a passion for involve getting out of your comfort zone?? Try it. I know I need to do just that.
“Ask yourself what is really important, and then have the wisdom and courage to build your life around your answer.” – Wright Thurston
When I saw this quote on Twitter, it obviously caught my eye since this is something that I believe in and try to promote. The reason I hung onto it and read it again and then saved it was that I was reminded about how true this is in my life with a little discussion my wife and I had this weekend.
We were talking to each other about frustrations that we have been having with each other along with other things, and within the discussion it hit me (again, since we have had similar discussions before) that she is not only right on the majority of what we were talking about, but also our discussion got me thinking about how much work I still need to do on myself. At 49 years old, yep, I don’t have it all figured out and I still have lessons to learn. The old saying popped into my head about lessons being repeated, until lessons are learned.
This point about always learning hit me too as I saw a former student post something about how she thought she would have things figured out a little more at age 19 and that didn’t happen. Now at age 23, she also thought she would have more figured out, accomplished a little more, be in a certain place in her life. But she went onto saying something about how that’s not really the case as she is currently having trouble cooking noodles or something like that. She sounded like she was reflecting on the fact that she was still ok, that she’s not the only one that has thought and gone through this, and that she will continue to work at figuring things out in her life.
That point hit me as I too am still working on me. With the help of my wife and others, that is something I know I need to do a better job at. Instead of casting blame elsewhere as I often have done and not putting the action steps into place that are necessary to help make some of those changes, I have yet another reminder for myself to get back into and stay in this game of getting better.
As I have my 2nd cup of coffee going down here on a Sunday morning, this reflective time that I look to find every weekend is so crucial to me. With writing this blog, doing my podcasts, learning about new ways of communicating with people along with thinking about my week ahead of things I want to get done or simply get started; I know I need to continue to not only find this reflective time but then to actually go out and do the things that I reflect upon.
This quote above should be something that we all can focus on for sure. What are the things you are building your life around? Find some time and take that time to really connect to what this is for you. The coffee might help too.
This was taken in 2014 - I figured it was a good time to bring it out again!
“Sure I wave the American flag. Do you know a better flag to wave? Sure I love my country with all her faults. I’m not ashamed of that, never have been and never will be.” – John Wayne
As we celebrated our country’s birthday again this past July 4, I was seeing a lot of different quotes and ideas about our nation’s birthday. I’m a big fan of John Wayne, always have been as a little kid and I always will be as a big kid too. I loved his toughness, fairness, strength, courage, etc. Now, most of this was from his movie characters, but learning that was the kind of guy he was outside of the movies too as connected me to him even more.
I put out my American flag a few days ago in front of our house and I noticed a few other houses in our neighborhood had one flying too. That is always great to see, even though there are still not that many flags flying, and there should be. There always seems to be a lot of great pride in the 4th of July holiday, but I wonder sometimes, as with all the holidays, how much we take it for granted. How most people, including me at times, look forward to the time off or the chance to get away more than what the true meaning of the holiday and what the celebration should really be about.
Sure our country has problems and issues, which country doesn’t? Since our country (and every other country) is made up of different people, there will always be issues. When people are involved with things, those things can get very messy. They key is becoming clearer to me as I get a little bit older. Our country does have issues that have to be solved. It involves those of us that live here to start doing things to help solve the problems and issues we have, not to add more problems to the growing list. We should all realize that in order for us to solve the problems and issues we are facing, WE have to be the ones to start doing something about them. We cannot keep looking to our government to solve them. Our government is a BIG part of the problems and issues we have to face. Now before you start going after me because of this view, hear me out. Since WE make up the government, or at least we are supposed to, we all are the ones that equally are part of the problems we face. This is not a political party issue, this is an American issue!
I am more focused now than ever before of trying to be a difference maker with others. I’m to encourage others more. I’m looking to lead by example more, that’s for sure. This also means that I need to continue to work on myself even more. My habits, my thinking, my connecting to others, encouraging my wife, kids, others even more to follow their hearts in their life’s journey; this and more is what I’m looking at improving. What are a few things you can do? Heck, what is just one thing you can improve upon? Answer that and start doing something about it. We all don’t have as much time as we think we do, that’s for sure. For me, that’s hitting me in the face more and more with all the lessons that are out there for me to learn. It would be great for you to pick up the lessons that life is sharing with you so that you can make a difference to yourself and others. I'm just saying... :-) Always let me know how we can help each other out with these things as there is power in numbers.
Coach John Daly
In Education for almost 33 years. Around coaching girls basketball for almost 40 years. Looking to share insights, thoughts and ideas to help everyone find their own piece of success.