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Big-Time Growth Awaits Outside Of The Zone!

5/30/2017

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"All progress takes place outside the comfort zone." — Michael John Bobak

This is something that has taken me awhile to latch onto.   I’ve made tremendous progress throughout my life when getting out of my comfort zone.  It’s just that most of the times; I’ve not gotten out of my comfort zone enough to really do the things that I know I want to do.

Since 2014 when I had both of my surgeries (knee replacement & back surgery), that was the first recent instance that has gotten me out of my comfort zone.  I’ve had to make adjustments, to think differently, and start to realize the changes that I need to make in my life in many different areas.    My physical and mental health has to improve along with my relationship health too; starting with my wife, kids, and family.   There are many other relationships that I need to work on as well and I need to stop putting it off.  These things are helping me to get out of my comfort zone in a big way.

I also got some help in 2016 by interviewing for two positions that I did not end up getting.  The high school that I work at had an Assistant Principal job opening along with bringing back our Dean of Students position too.  The entire process helped to give me so much confidence in that it made thing become very clear as to the direction I want to take my career and my life.  I can honestly say without reservation that I’m at so much peace with the fact I didn’t get either of those 2 positions.  First, the right candidates got them over me.  They are the BETTER candidates that will help our school more than I could. 

Second and more important, this process has given me the kick in my butt that I’ve tried to give myself over the years that I need to see my future and the direction I NEED to take it.   As Les Brown has said – it’s hard to see outside the picture when I’m inside the frame.  The time aspect has been a big part for me to connect with and understand; both from the parts that the new positions would have taken up more and different amounts of time along with that for me personally, time is running out as to things I want to (and need to) get done in my life.
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So, as I begin to take these lessons and apply them to the things I need to work on, it gives me great energy and excitement for what’s to come.  It pays big dividends to get out of our comfort zones, get a little scared and uncomfortable and then realize that you are not only okay for doing it, but that you are actually coming out better for going through it.  I’m not sure if you have found the same results for getting out of your comfort zone and if you have not, you need to try it.  There really is no sense to go through our lives living timid and being scared to work on things that are connected to our hearts.  Life is supposed to be a learning & growing adventure.  I’ve found that really only happens outside of the picture frame.  Outside our comfort zone is the place to be for me, how about you?
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Get Ready For Struggles - There Are Lessons To Learn

5/16/2016

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"If there is no struggle, there is no progress." — Frederick Douglass

When I saw this quote, there were a few things I thought about right away.  First, on how true it really is.  As this weekend there were some struggles in our house with moving both of our kids back home from their college apartments. My wife and I rented a truck to bring home the furniture and other things that they had with them and moved it all back home into our garage, our house, basement, etc.  Of course the kids were there too – it would not have gotten done without us helping each other.  We got it all done and it actually went a lot better than I thought it would.

Another thing that connected with me and this quote was from my Principles of Leadership classes that have been going on this spring term at school.  Just about all the speakers, movies, presentations, articles, audios, and video clips have had this common theme with them too.  The message from those:  There will be struggle, but the struggle is what makes the journey worth it.  We can’t get out of life without struggles.   There is that saying that life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% as to how we react to those things.

It is amazing to hear and see so many others have struggles too.  In today’s world of social media where many people post things online as to how wonderful things are going, all the great pictures of family and friends, and all the celebrations and achievements – it’s no wonder where this can depress or upset people.   I am finding out that just about all the people posting those wonderful things do indeed have struggles going on.  It’s not even just people posting things out on social media – others are struggling too. 

I have also found out within those struggles comes opportunity.  Dr. Randy Pausch (The Last Lecture) talked a lot about the brick walls in life. Those represent those things that get in the way of our lives, the struggles that we all must figure out.  Yes, we need to overcome those brick walls, go over them, go around them, heck even go under them if we have to.  Randy talked about another angle that I want you to think about.  He mentioned that those brick walls are there for us to show how bad we want to accomplish things in life. They are there to keep others out that don’t want it bad enough.  Please understand there will be others that get in your way.  They are part of that struggle for sure.  He pointed out that some of our brick walls won’t be made out of brick at all. They will be made of flesh, for they will be people that we have to get through or get around to obtain our goals and dreams. Knowing that this will be coming our way throughout life, make the decision now to not let these brick walls stop us. Figure out some ideas now!
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Real Progress Happens Outside Our Comfort Zone - Quote Of The Week

3/9/2015

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"All progress takes place outside the comfort zone." – Michael John Bobak

This has been a reoccurring topic lately.  Getting out of our comfort zone really is the place where things happen.  It’s not a coincidence, it’s not luck, it’s just one of the many laws of success that present themselves to us throughout life.

As I sit here in my quiet kitchen on a sunny Saturday morning having a cup of coffee of course, I can’t help to be drawn to thoughts on how much I’ve avoided getting out of my comfort zone in my past.  Parts of my thoughts are of course how I wished I didn’t do that.  How I should have pushed through my limiting beliefs about doing things that made me feel uncomfortable and where I could be today if I would have done those things.

As I take a sip of my coffee I have quickly adjusted my thoughts as I look outside at the sunshine on all the snow we have, and I notice the snow that has disappeared from on top of our patio table.  A thought pops into my head about how things are improving weather wise and that spring is coming with warmer temperatures and the snow will be gone soon enough.  That also got me thinking about the fact that I cannot sit here and feel bad about past mistakes. That I know better enough to capture the lessons from those past instances and apply them to the new beginnings that are in front of me now.

I had a couple of great conversations with a few students throughout the past week.  A couple of current seniors, along with a couple of alumni that I saw who were on their spring breaks from college.  Our conversations were in part about this very point about getting out of your comfort zone and that’s where great things start happening.  It’s about the outstanding people that come into our lives when we get of our box of comfort and venture forward in new directions.  It’s about the new situations that present themselves if we have our eyes, ears, minds, and hearts open; for that’s the only way we will recognize them.  I even mentioned to one of my current seniors, that I too need to follow my own advice.  I need to get out of my comfort zone and look in new directions for things that will further my passion in life to help and serve others.

It sure does help to have that idea of what indeed is your passion(s) in life.  What gets you fired up?  What wakes you up early with those thoughts and ideas that start coming into your head where you can’t sleep anymore and you have to get up to get going on your day?  One of the other topics I spoke about with a current senior was the fact they didn’t know what they wanted to do after graduation and how scared they were that it’s coming so fast.  That’s the part about that we need to keep moving forward with doing things that we can learn new things, meet new people and have our eyes, ears, hearts and minds open to the new things that will come into our lives.  

This senior did something right.  He said he changed his schedule around a little bit in order to take a couple more challenging classes instead of those that many people suggest to take that won’t challenge him too much.  This was another moment for me where I recognized that this student just became a teacher and taught me a lesson that I needed.  I too need to do some things that not only challenge me but will open new doors of possibilities in my life.  Those new possibilities will not only affect me personally but could also positively affect others in my life that could benefit from me getting out of my comfort zone.

So, as I grab another cup of coffee while my house is still quiet, I will look at today to see what are some other small things I can do to get out of my comfort zone and get going on some things that will pay some huge benefits soon or in the future.  What can you do with today that will help you move beyond your walls of comfort? What also can you share about that part of your journey that will help others too?
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