Category: Success - Coach to Expect Success

Success & Failure - Both Don't Last Forever

2/9/2022

My friend Coach Ray puts these quotes out all the time & this one (like the others) are full of great lessons for me and anyone else that wants to take them in. It's a great reminder that both successes and failures, don't last... but they do affect our futures for sure. I find myself looking back to yesterday even, and there were good things that happened yesterday for sure. I look to continue those good things today. But to do that, my actions, choices, decisions, etc., need to be aligned with those things.

Just as there were some not-so-good things that happened yesterday, I want to learn the lessons from that hopefully to not have my actions, choices, decisions, etc., give me those same results. Again, it's tied into one of the best pieces of advice that I've ever found - and I share it often... "our past is our best mentor."

I also love that part of it where it reminds us that we "must pay the toll" of what success is. Sometimes it's paid in the failures we go through & the struggles that are usually associated with them. We can turn those into "currency" in order for us to use them on better times in our future. Again, things like this are always great reminders for us to take with us throughout our days.

Having An Open Minded Mindset, Sure Does Help

10/19/2021

Listened to a great podcast recently where Ann Hiatt was a guest on John Lee Dumas' podcast, "Fire Nation". She had so many powerful things to say that it got me going in some great thinking directions, not only for myself, but also my students too. I had them listen to this podcast to help them see the connection to the week's Positivity Project connection to Open-Mindedness.

Check out the podcast HERE.

A few things that I connected from this podcast & I know will help me with what I want to do in my profession as an educator and a coach - First, there are so many "behind the scenes" things or "under the radar" things that I can do to build myself & my profession, stronger & having more of an impact. The little everyday things that go unnoticed by most - I can focus on them everyday, knowing they bring value to what I want to do. Waking up early, reading more, getting to work early & getting prepared. Making time for others to help solve issues & questions before they become problems. So many things that we all can do, that might not get other people to notice - but we know are the right things to do.

Second thing that stood out to me was the idea of staying ahead of myself as I learn new things, pick up new skills, be open to new opportunities, etc. There is this mindset of "reinventing" ourselves every so often. I certainly do not want to stay where I'm at as far as abilities & knowledge. It's become apparent to me recently that I want to keep learning new things, meeting new people, coming up with new ideas, etc., until my final day on earth. That's just me.

Finally - there are so many different paths towards success & that one way does not work for everyone. Success is such a broad definition for so people. One thing for sure that I'm seeing more and more (especially with my new position as an ESL Coach at school) is that my positive attitude / outlook / mindset, etc., is a difference maker. I see many people that are of the opposite mindset and I see the struggles they are having compared to others. Remember, having a positive attitude / outlook / mindset, does not mean you don't have problems. It means that you can solve them A TON better with a positive mindset than with a negative one. THAT IS FACT!

Teamwork Connections with John Maxwell

10/6/2021

John Maxwell always has some great wisdom to share when it comes to Leadership & Life topics. Teamwork is something he knows a lot about. He reminds us that as humans, we are not put here on earth to go through life alone. I love his quote - "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go with others." It's so true as we can see any great thing ever done in life has all been connected to a group of people and not just one person. One truly is too small a number to achieve greatness.

I always look at a basketball team (as I stared coaching in 1982, it's been a major part of my life) and I always remind players about it takes 5 people to do great things on the court. Just as we don't dribble the basketball with just one finger - it takes all five fingers to control the ball; great things on the court cannot be done by just one person. It's like that in work, with our families, with our friends, etc.

Watch this "Minute with Maxwell" video to get a little bit more details as to what he is talking about.

Failure Lessons

1/1/2019

For my first blog of the Winter term I found this great quote: "Confidence comes from not always being right - but from not fearing to be wrong." - Peter T. Mcintyre

This is something that I think is a HUGE deal in life, finding confidence in many different areas of our lives and minimizing the fear of being wrong or failing. I have always seemed to have issues growing up - some still today - with not having a lot of confidence in myself. So many examples of me giving up and not sticking with things just because they got too difficult or it was going to take too much time. Wow.. wish I had knows about how important this skill was back when I was younger.

This other thing that I found was this following picture below - I can attest to this for sure! My lack of confidence in myself has cost me far more than any little stumble or failure that I've had. Here is one reason why - my lack of confidence at times kept me from trying again and figuring out the initial issue in the first place. My problem could have been solved with just the simple act of pulling myself back up and trying again, maybe in a smarter way than I did it before. Now with age, comes wisdom and I know now that I need to stick with things and not give up so much. Good stuff for all of us to learn. ;-)

Coach Rich Popp - A Difference Maker To Learn From

8/26/2018

Life is about find difference makers and learning from them. It's also and maybe more importantly a key to become one too. Coach Rich Popp was my special guest in a recent podcast - which you can check out HERE. When I sat down and spent some time with Coach, he showed me and every listener why he defines what a difference maker is all about. He is one that not only shows it in everything he does, but he helps others to learn about doing it too. He is one of the many reasons why I am looking forward to going back this school year. Sit back and pick up the clues of success that Coach shares from his long career in education and coaching. Remember, success leaves clues and it's up to us to gather those clues and use them in our lives.

One of the BIGGIES for me is the points he made on relationships - so valuable, so needed in today's world. I see this need more so every day - there will be more of my podcasts and blogs focused in on this fact. You can contact Coach Popp at: Theshorefb@gmail.com Thanks for listening. Please take a few moments to subscribe & share my shows with someone, also leave a 5 Star rating on ITunes or other services where you find this show. Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachtoexpectsuccess/ on Twitter: @coachtosuccess and on Instagram at: @coachjohndaly

7 Tips for Developing Your Personal Philosophy

4/9/2018

What a FANTASTIC article I found in Success magazine - Click HERE for the article link.

The 7 Tips I found in this article ... heck.. they were even numbered for me so that there was no reason for me missing them... were things that I needed to see on a Monday morning coming back to school after our Spring Break.

First of #1 - Set Your Sail - The author mentions that "the winds of circumstances blow upon all of us" - and it all depends on our thinking, our personal mindset , how we respond to those changing winds -- all of those are how we can succeed where so many struggle. I know for a fact that I need to work on this BIG TIME!!

#2 - Learn from success and failure -- Remember, our personal experience is our best teacher... just as our past is our best mentor. We can also learn from others too - remember that success leaves clues. :-) I always need to remind myself that I need to have a clue in order to pick up the many clues that Success (and failures) leave all around us. ;-)

#3 - Read All You Can -- Books have always been, in my opinion, a cornerstone of success. There are far too many examples to not on how successful people have had reading being a part of that success. It's part of the clues that success leaves - other people sharing information that helped them in some way, shape or form by giving instruction, advice, inspiration, motivation, lessons, etc. I know I need to read more - how about you?

#4 - Keep a journal -- Now I did this ... the key word is DID... and I did not keep up with that. I had a gratitude journal going for a little bit - 9 months to a year maybe?? I know for a fact that I need to get going on that again and soon!!

#5 - Observe and Listen -- WOW... a reminder that I need for sure, since I know how important it is to do these but yet I struggle doing them. I love how this article brought up the points about who have surrounding ourselves and to not "... waste your time on the silly and the shallow." We do get a choice as to who we let influence us. ;-)

#6 - Be Disciplined -- Yep.... another eye-opening reminder for myself here. This is HUGE!! The old saying goes - "Discipline weighs ounces, regrets weighs tons." Putting some discipline in my life - especially when I was younger - could have paid off so much if I had done it. :-) But you know what, I can do it now!! :-)

#7 - Don't Neglect -- All the little things are so important because they lead to bigger things - ALL THROUGHOUT LIFE. Our health, our finances, our relationships, etc. The other 6 points are all part of not neglecting those things in our lives. I know I have to work on all of them for sure and the more I work on them, the better I know I will be.

Growth & Success - They Go Hand In Hand

2/13/2018

“Growth is the great separator between those who succeed and those who do not. When I see a person beginning to separate themselves from the pack, it’s almost always due to personal growth.” ―John C. Maxwell

This is one of those truths that you certainly see a lot clearer as you get older. Well guess what?? I’m coming up on 52 years old, and my eyesight might be getting a little worse – but I can see this statement as clear as day!

There are two parts for me. First, I do see myself separating a little bit from others. I know it’s due to me working on my self-improvement and it’s coming from a few different areas. One of the things that is holding me back is me! The self-esteem / self-confidence component of all of this always is in play for me. It always has been, all throughout my life. It is on my long list of things to keep working on – that list is growing all the time.

Secondly, I see this fact in others as well. Not only am I very proud of the people I know and see them growing, but I’m also learning from them and it’s helping me – BIG TIME! Hanging around people that are going after new and exciting things in their lives, help those that are witness to it. Especially if you are asking them for advice and for them to share their stories with you, realize that is pure gold!!

This brings up the fact that there are so many pieces to our own “success” puzzle, we just have to look for them. It’s all up to us. We can’t blame this on others if we choose not to improve ourselves. It’s totally on our shoulders. Today more than ever before there are plenty of tools that we can use to do this. Just look at our smart phones. We have so many options to connect with self-improvement lessons. I also think that there has never been a better time to work on self-improvement than there is today. The upside has so much attached to it, more than ever before. The question is – will you do it?

"The true measure of success is how many times you can bounce back from failure." - Stephen Richards

9/18/2017

There are so many things that we can look at to help us measure success. But what kind of success are we talking about? Everyone seems to have different pieces to their own success puzzle. When I saw this quote, it made me think about the fact that the puzzle piece of failure in life is a puzzle piece that we all have in our own puzzle for sure.

Since it does indeed happen to all of us, one of the best ways we can have it produce positive things for us and our lives is to actually learn from those failures. There is an old saying - Lessons Repeated Until Lessons Learned! I know that is right on target, especially for me. So if we can learn that failure happens to all of us and it's usually all the time. Then we can find so much value in failures - now we don't go looking to fail intentionally, but we can find something positive for sure in those.

Finally, I think there is power in the fact that if you know these things about failure - you certainly kind make up your mind to bounce back from them. Knowing that they are coming at us all the time - we can learn from them along with making up our minds to get up from them and not let them keep us down. Of course this is one of many ideas that is best when we take the advice earlier in life rather that waiting.

So Many Lessons From All Around Us

8/1/2017

There have been so many instances lately where I have been picking up lessons left and right about life, success, leadership, etc. You see, that’s the one thing you always need to remember – Success always leaves clues!!

For someone like me who has been clueless many times in life, this is for me! Now, I’ve known about this rule of success for years. It just seems that it every so often I need to be reminded about it and this time is good as any, especially since I am looking to change some things up in my life lately that I know I have to do.

Lately some of the best lessons have been coming from our new dog Kirby. He’s not that new as we got him in June of 2016. He has brought so much love and happiness into our home that could not have been found without him. Now we do have happiness and love in our family – but Kirby has brought that out so much since he’s been in our lives. His undying love for the four of us has been amazing. His energy has been crazy at times – but it has shown me about having energy or a better outlook for life, just like he does! We are his whole world and he loves us no matter what. I need to have that for people too, especially my family!!

If I’m talking about lessons, I must mention books. I got back to reading some books this past year and I got to tell you, I can’t believe I stopped reading them from years ago. They have helped me grow tremendously so much so that I need to keep reading now since I’ve seen the growth that comes with it. Reading has opened up doors for me to new opportunities, new idea, new things that I get to go after in my life. Crazy to see how much reading a book can help in my life and it can do the same for you. I will be updating my book list for sure on my website.

Being a teacher, I have to tell you that I am amazed as to how much of a student I am becoming again. With 28 years of teaching under my belt, all I can see is that it’s about time I recognize that fact. Don’t get me wrong, this is a lesson that I’ve had many times before, it’s just this time I think it means a little more to me.

Another lesson came to me today. I was visiting my parents after I took my wife to the airport where she was traveling to visit a good & longtime friend for a few days. After a great visit and some lunch, I went with them to visit one of their best friends who is in an assisted living center as she is fighting Alzheimer’s Disease. She was around when I was born, in fact my parents knew her and her husband (who recently passed away) before my parents were married more than 52 years ago. It was an amazing visit. To see both my mom and her friend light up when they saw each other, was truly amazing. Her friend still has that amazing positive attitude and that wonderful laugh. To see her after all these years since I last saw her, was a true blessing. To bear witness to my parent’s friendship with her – especially my mom – the lessons I learned today, and they were many, were pure gold.

So, please look around you all the time for those lessons are being thrown around like the sunshine and winds during the day. They are always there. We simply need to pick them up and use them in our lives. I think we both can agree – we sure do need them. Got any lessons to share? Please do, like I said, we all need them.

Helping Yourself - And Others - To Be Successful

7/15/2017

Helping Yourself (and Others) Be Successful

There are so many great sources available that can help us in our lives. With the Internet – and especially your Smart Phone – there is no real reason not to constantly be on a path towards improvement!

I’ve been making it a point to do more reading. I’m working on 2 books now and I need to finish one of them (for a couple of reasons) before I start a new one. Reading 2 books at a time is something that I need to do and I know I can. I’ve also been finding some great articles that are making a huge difference with me too. One recent one is titled “7 Ways to Help Yourself (and Others) Be Successful” found at Success Magazine. Click HERE for the article - a great read!

Here are the 7 points with a few thoughts about each:

Give Back: If everyone asked “How can I help” instead of “What can I get?” – we would all see a much different world around us. Has there ever been a time throughout the time of our lives where this concept has been needed more than now? I love the point in the article that we stand on each other’s shoulders to elevate us to our ultimate accomplishments. We can’t be successful on our own.
Surround yourself with people smarter than you: BIG POINT here – Success is largely a factor of the people you make a part of the journey. Guess what? It’s our choice who we let into our lives. There has to come a time where we look to distance ourselves from those that don’t add value to our lives, those that cause us distractions, heartache, problems, etc. We also need to look for those that are good for us, they do make a difference, they do add value to our lives, they look to help and encourage us.
Find a mentor: Mentorship is a service and it is one that we need to find for ourselves and look to provide to others too. It’s a great idea to never stop seeking help from those who are where you want to be. A great by product of serving and helping others is that it helps you become a mentor yourself. Don’t ever let a goal become more important than helping others. Always do more than others expect from you. Under promise and over deliver, blow them away with what you bring to the table. Always try to look to get them excited to work with you.
Be an influencer: The main point about being an influencer is that they look to help others without expecting anything in return. They always look to have win-win situations with others that they are working with.
Celebrate others’ success: It really comes down to attitude as to how we can be happy for the success of others – especially those that we care deeply for. When that happens and we get to embrace the success of others, we get the benefit of greater satisfaction. We feel fulfilled instead of bitter. Our excitement, energy, motivation and drive to do better ourselves is multiplied due to us celebrating the success of others. A very powerful tool that not too many people use. Here was a HUGE point I found: “Beyond seizing an available opportunity where possible, our sense of embracing others’ achievements helps to expand our own willpower.”
Spread positivity: A very interesting observation about our subconscious is really motivated by emotion, not by reason. A strong point made was that positive emotion trumps negative emotion every time! Positive things are much easier to transfer to others than negative ones because they create lasting change. Positive realities, ideas, thoughts, attitudes, etc. = lasting change, movement forward, going after things, growth, etc. Negative realities, ideas, thoughts, attitudes, etc. = NO change, stagnation, going backwards, getting worse instead of better. There are plenty of studies out there that that positivity is not only better for the person carrying around those thoughts & ideas, but also for the other people that they encounter.
Find your motivation: Many times people see successful people and they think, wouldn’t it be great to be like them. They have no clue. Successful people see each day as another opportunity to improve, to get better, to move closer to accomplishing their goals. They will tell you that more you accomplish, the more you will want to keep working hard to make things happen. Motivation comes in many forms. We need to find those forms that connect to us and know that we will need it every day, just like taking a shower.

Any thoughts? Questions? Ideas to use these points in your life? Would love any discussions & comments you want to have. Let me know.